Sex expert Tracey Cox reveals the questions to ask before you dating your friend's ex

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The reverse is also true; no matter how much you love discussing your dude with your besties, his ex can probably live without hearing the details of his current sex life. Remember that you can love them both without them necessarily having to enjoy each other. Trust that your dude is with you because he likes you and you're awesome, not because he's biding his time until your friend takes him back. I don't mean that you can never be happy again after breaking up with someone.

Not really because of him, but because of her. The reverse is also true; no matter how much you love discussing your dude with your besties, his ex can probably live without hearing the details of his current sex life. Following what your ex and friend are doing online is unhealthy and could help feed negative emotions.

Is Dating Your Friend’s Ex Ever Acceptable? - Answer any questions briefly, if you are comfortable answering them at all. If negative feelings are still prevalent in your mind, it may be best to avoid both of them until you feel better about it.

A friend once told me his test of whether he's over an ex is whether it would bother him if they were dating someone else. Under that logic, I've never gotten over anyone in my life. Months and sometimes years after a relationship, my heart rate still accelerates when I see an ex is on Facebook. Over a year after I ended one relationship, I found some photos on of my ex with a woman I didn't recognize. It was like we were still together and he cheated. I wasn't entitled to feel this way — I broke up with him! After I last spoke to another fling I never even officially dated, I made sure to so I didn't have a similar experience. But that didn't stop his new profile picture, with an unknown woman next to him. Sure, she could be a friend, but seeing two people in the same profile picture is basically a giveaway. Again, I didn't feel I had the right to be upset. We were never exclusive and hadn't spoken in six months! After doing some soul searching, I realized my reasons were different for each person. With the first ex, I still relied on him for emotional support the way I did when we were dating, and seeing him with someone else made me wonder if we could still have as close a relationship. Plus, when I broke up with him, he said he refused to move on and planned to marry me — a promise he obviously couldn't keep, but it planted in the back of my mind the assumption that if I ever had a change of heart, he would be there. With the second non ex, I realized there was an ounce of hope lingering in me that maybe we would reunite one day, and seeing that he was no longer available crushed it. I know I'm not alone in feeling devastated over an ex moving on. A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media. Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on Girls, she. One person can date two very different people. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning. People don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason. This Doesn't Erase What You Two Had Whatever Beyonce may say, nobody's replaceable. Your ex's new significant other is not your replacement. Your relationship was unique and special and nothing can ever take away from that. Your ex will never experience with this new person exactly what they did with you. You get to be the one who made rainbow cake with them or first showed them Arrested Development or whatever made your relationship special. Even if they do some of these same things with their current partner, they will never recreate your entire relationship. The memories you two have together are yours and yours alone. However, how quickly you get into a relationship isn't a measure of how desirable you are. Look around at the people you know. It's not necessarily the most attractive or likable people who get into relationships the most easily. Your ex just happened to stumble upon someone else before you did. That doesn't reflect poorly on you. They Still Care About You When my ex first got a new girlfriend, I feared that it endangered the friendship we formed post-breakup. But even if it changed the dynamics of our relationship a bit, it didn't change how he felt. Getting into relationships in the past at least hasn't changed the way I cared about my exes. If anything, it has helped me know that my friendships with exes were genuine and not ploys to get back together. If you can confide in your ex about your current relationship, perhaps that's the ultimate sign you've moved on — to a friendship that's just as special.

3 TIPS FOR CRUSHING ON A FRIEND'S EX!
The problem is, my friend had a deep relationship with this girl, and I think he's still kind of in love with her. They grow to love this person just as much as you do, and then, when you decide to end things, they are forced to as well. You're mature enough to deal with it. The relationship probably won't last. Remove yourself from it and rise above. When I approached my friend about her and I being friends, he said he didn't mind it at all. Is it an acquaintance or a not so close friend? There was only one weird thing about her, which is that I would occasionally catch her looking at me a little funny. Tom, one of my childhood friends, was always kind of bummed out, until he met Josie, a fast-talking, high-energy woman who brought him out of his shell. Instead or repressing your emotions, allow yourself to feel the emotions from the breakup so that you can get over it quicker. The Question Hi Dating Nerd, I'm in a pickle.